Classes Currently Offered

All of the classes below are presented by Sir Guy (with a co-presenter or demo bottom where appropriate) and may span between 60 and 120 minutes, depending upon your group needs. All classes are appropriate to a wide range of experience levels, with the exception of “I Ask the Questions Here: Military Style Interrogations” and “Flogging the Mind: The Art and Science of the Mind Fuck” which are recommended for a more seasoned practitioner. Please contact us if you are interested in having Sir Guy present one of these classes for your group or event.

 

Classes are grouped by category and, as such, some classes may appear more than once under different categories.

Classes on BDSM Activities

 

THE ART OF THE DEAL: How to Negotiate a BDSM Scene

It seems so simple. Two (or more) people look at each other and feel a certain connection that moves them to want to do a scene together. The air is electric and there is certain magnetism. The last thing you want to do is destroy the mood by entering into a lengthy process that feels more like litigation than the makings of a hot time. How do you insure everyone’s safety, protect each other while laying the foundation for a great scene? Sir Guy shows how to cover the essentials in a way that is both thorough and fun and lays the groundwork for future good times.

 

H.O.T. – Hands Only Torture

If one were to read any of the BDSM based novels or watch BDSM themed movies one would think that you’d have to have a fat bank account to consider playing in that world. But you don’t! Sir Guy is going to show you how there are plenty of things, from spanking to sensory stimulation, from the sensuous to the sadistic, that can be done with the hands alone that can bring about a mutually satisfying experience. This class is hands on and encourages audience participation!

 

SUDDEN IMPACT: Impact Play and Weapons of Ass Destruction

The crack of the whip... The thud of a flogger.... A hand across the face... There are various types of implements to impact your play. Sir Guy explores a variety of methods of impact play, explaining cause and effect, anatomy and physiology and the personal connection necessary to create a scene that leaves a lasting impact.

 

I ASK THE QUESTIONS HERE: Military and Police Style Interrogations

With recent news events, the gathering of information via interrogation utilized by the military has gotten a lot of attention lately. Most of us grew up on police shows and their interrogation methods. Being who we are we can see the kink potential in everything, thus, here is a class that uses the government’s own manuals from the 1960s to Abu Ghraib and Guantanamo and police procedures to show sound methodologies of extracting information, or of just having good clean, dirty fun. Sir Guy will describe and demonstrate some of these methods and discuss the psychology and the aftermath of interrogation.

 

FLOGGING THE MIND: The Art and Science of the Mind Fuck

Playing with knives and floggers and other devices can be enjoyable, but after the bruises are healed, the effects of the session can also fade. But when you have stimulated and played with the mind, the effects can last long after the session is over… even forever! Sir Guy explores the edgier aspects of playing with the mind; the things that make it hot and the things that make it dangerous!

 

UNIFORM PLAY: A way to Enhance Your Role Play

The sexy yet innocent parochial school girl look; the highly polished boots, gun belt and mirrored shades of the highway patrolman; the starched white uniform of the registered nurse; the dress blues of the marine. These images have long been the staple of many erotic fantasies, vanilla and otherwise. Sir Guy will discuss uniform play and why it makes us so hot. He will also discuss the history of the uniform in the Leather community, the psychological aspects of uniform play, including pitfalls and benefits, uniform resources and the law. In addition, uniform scenes will be demonstrated and excerpts from his soon to be released book read.

 

Classes on Master/slave (D/s, 24/7) Relationships

 

The Attributes of Leadership and the Path to Mastery

One of the keys to being a good Master is to be a good leader.  Yet, as difficult as it may be to acquire and express the attributes of leadership, doing so is no guarantee that one can become a Master.  Indeed, there are many slaves who possess leadership attributes.  So, how so we translate the qualities that make one a good leader into becoming a Master?  What are these attributes and how can we utilize them in a power exchange relationship?  Sir Guy discusses the attributes of leadership and the challenges of making them guide one along the way to Mastery.

 

Identifying and Overcoming Mistakes in Building Master/slave Dynamics

Quite often, discussions of Master/slave relationships are full of all of the positive things that have been done to perfect the power exchange dynamics.  People who have been in M/s relationships for years share their expertise and give pointers on what you should do to make your M/s dynamic work.  That is all good, but few will speak about their own mistakes at length, reveal what problems they’ve had and illustrate what obstacles they’ve overcome to make it thus far.  This discussion aims to be different.  Sir Guy and his slave, Harley, will share their continuing journey along the path in their M/s relationship and share how they deal with issues day-to-day in their M/s relationship.

 

Master/slave Relationships and People of Color

Before we are Masters or slaves, we are people with our own experiences and beliefs, which may affect how we respond to things, how we view others, and how others view us. American society in particular has issues with race and minority cultures that are often not discussed until there is a major problem. This avoidance can have a polarizing effect, not just in the world at large but within the BDSM and M/s communities as well. How do we deal with social conditioning around race and color? How do we deal with the terms "Master" and "slave" or the concept of consensual "ownership" of a person? Are there different perceptions of M/s in interracial or multicultural households? Sir Guy will lead a discussion of these and related questions.

 

SIR, YES, SIR!: Military Style D/s

When we think of hierarchical relationships of any type, none seem to epitomize the concept as well as the military. There are traditions, rituals and protocols built into the military as well as training, indoctrination, reward and discipline. It is no small wonder that the military begat the Leather community. Sir Guy will explore how some of these principles can be helpful in developing and maintaining a D/s relationship, particularly when there may be more than two individuals involved.

 

M/s and Multiracial. Multicultural, Multi-religious (etc) Relationships

Trying to navigate the mine field of developing a relationship is never easy. You have to deal with personalities, interests, goals and other markers for compatibility. When we add to the mix authority based relationships and all that entails, it can get even more complicated. Now, when we additionally factor in the polarizing climate of today’s world, the idea of trying to climb all of those hurdles and deal with racial, ethnic and cultural differences can truly make the task a daunting one. Yet, there are many who do it and have done so successfully. How do we tackle this? What do we look for? How can we navigate the issues that are bound to occur? Let's have an open discussion on this subject...

 

ARE YOU MY DADDY?: Discovering the Daddy Dominant

There has been much discussion about the "Daddy Dominant". Some say it is trend or fad. Others say it is a softer form of dominance. What is the truth? How does one know just what a Daddy is? Is Daddy “less than” Master or “better than” a Top? Are the attributes different than that of the average Dominant? Does it have to involve age play? Incest play? What is a "little"? Sir Guy discusses the Daddy Dominant and helps us understand just what it can mean to an individual and to a relationship.

 

Classes about Identity

 

WHO AM I?: The Journey to Self

Master/slave, Dominant/submissive, Top/bottom, Sadist/masochist, Poly, Switch... These and many others are terms familiar to those in the BDSM scene. To many, these are basic, fundamental labels of our identity. Yet, the longer one is in the scene, the more one realizes that these labels can mean very different things to different people. During the course of self-discovery with so many different interpretations of the same words, how do we come to identify ourselves and feel confident in those identities? How can one discover and define oneself? Sir Guy will discuss these questions using examples of his own continuing journey to self-identification.

 

Race, Gender and BDSM

Though we’d like to think the world of Leather, Kink and BDSM is a world unto itself, free of the issues that plague the rest of society, the fact of the matter is that race and gender pay just as much of a role in the BDSM community as it does with the community at large. How do we address these issues? How do we deal with stereotypes? What can we do concerning matters of gender politics? How can we forge unity while celebrating our differences? Sir Guy leads a frank discussion on these matters.

 

M/s and Multiracial. Multicultural, Multi-religious (etc) Relationships

Trying to navigate the mine field of developing a relationship is never easy. You have to deal with personalities, interests, goals and other markers for compatibility. When we add to the mix authority based relationships and all that entails, it can get even more complicated. Now, when we additionally factor in the polarizing climate of today’s world, the idea of trying to climb all of those hurdles and deal with racial, ethnic and cultural differences can truly make the task a daunting one. Yet, there are many who do it and have done so successfully. How do we tackle this? What do we look for? How can we navigate the issues that are bound to occur? Let's have an open discussion on this subject...

 

KINK, DISABILITY, AND PTSD

The traditional images of BDSM and Kink show long lithe bodies with minimal body fat in tiny outfits accentuating muscular sinewy forms.  The fact of the matter is that image represents a small percentage of the kink community.  There are many who have disabilities, some invisible, others very visible.  In addition to our physical limitations, many of us have suffered life traumas that have affected us in a variety of ways.  It has recently been realized that many in the general population suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) as a result.  How do we deal with our limitations and still enjoy kink and life?  How do we help our partners do so?  Sir Guy, a 9/11 first responder who himself deals with PTSD and other disabilities leads this discussion.

 

Classes about Theory/Practical Matters

 

THE ART OF THE DEAL: How to Negotiate a BDSM Scene

It seems so simple. Two (or more) people look at each other and feel a certain connection that moves them to want to do a scene together. The air is electric and there is certain magnetism. The last thing you want to do is destroy the mood by entering into a lengthy process that feels more like litigation than the makings of a hot time. How do you insure everyone’s safety, protect each other while laying the foundation for a great scene? Sir Guy shows how to cover the essentials in a way that is both thorough and fun and lays the groundwork for future good times.

 

BDSM ER: It’s Not a Scene (Scene Safety)

Your fire play session was hotter than expected. Now someone got burned. What do you do? Your knife play was cutting edge and your bottom got the point. Now you’re in for some unexpected blood play. What do you do? Your breath play scene took your bottom’s breath away…literally. What can you do to breathe life into the scene? Sir Guy, a Ground Zero first responder, will review medical emergencies, show you what questions to ask before you play, what to do when things go wrong, and how to deal with first responders. In addition he will give tips on creating a first aid kit.

 

KINK, DISABILITY, AND PTSD

The traditional images of BDSM and Kink show long lithe bodies with minimal body fat in tiny outfits accentuating muscular sinewy forms.  The fact of the matter is that image represents a small percentage of the kink community.  There are many who have disabilities, some invisible, others very visible.  In addition to our physical limitations, many of us have suffered life traumas that have affected us in a variety of ways.  It has recently been realized that many in the general population suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) as a result.  How do we deal with our limitations and still enjoy kink and life?  How do we help our partners do so?  Sir Guy, a 9/11 first responder who himself deals with PTSD and other disabilities leads this discussion.

 

WHEN THE BAD BOYS COME FOR YOU: Dealing with Law Enforcement

You’re in the middle of an intense play session when you hear hard knocks on the door. When you answer, you see your local law enforcement officer. What do you do? You are travelling to an event, and have all your accoutrement in your checked baggage. You even checked it out with the TSA. Yet, you are being escorted now by airport police. What do you do? Sir Guy, a former NYC police officer, will guide you through the dilemma of dealing with law enforcement and other first responders.

 

SWINGING THE BIBLE BELT: Sex and D/s in the Bible

Incest, Genital mutilation, Polygamy, and, that’s just in Genesis! Join Sir Guy as he explores what makes the “Good Book” so “good”. In addition to polygamous relations, with wives and concubines, we’ll explore the erotic poetry of the Song of Solomon, the penalties for early withdrawal and the lasciviousness of some of God’s premier representatives. It is “holy” interesting.

 

BLACK LEATHER: A History of People of Color in Leather and BDSM

 When we hear of the histories of BDSM and Leather, the conversations often go to the early white gay male community or some European houses, but the fact of the matter is, just like American history, People of Color have had a long and storied history in the BDSM and Leather communities, not just as participants but as leaders.  This history is rich and needs to be explored.  Sir Guy will be your tour guide as we take the first steps into exploring various aspects of the histories of People of Color in Leather and BDSM.

 

I WANT TO TALK TO YOU: How to become a BDSM Presenter

Have you ever sat in a presentation about a subject you’ve had interest in only to be disappointed by the presentation? Do you have information that you think others can benefit from? Do you have knowledge of a subject that few know about and want to share your knowledge? Have you ever wondered how to go about becoming a presenter in the community? Sir Guy, who has been presenting in the community for close to a decade and public speaking for over thirty years, gives you tips on how to become a presenter. Reviewed will be public speaking clues, how to determine if you have what it takes to be a presenter and the pros and cons of presenting in the community.

 

DISCOVERING DOMINANCE: A Guide to the Dominant Novice

Many and varied are the guides and resources for those who are new to the submissive lifestyle, but those who are new to the Dominant side appear to have limited avenues to explore. Are the expectations for the Dominant in relationships higher? Should they be? What types of skills are essential? Are they physical skills, like flogging, using the single tail whip, or rope bondage? Is there something deeper, more complicated than that? Sir Guy will discuss the physical, spiritual and psychological dimensions of Dominance as well as sharing his personal journey, mistakes and all. Topics include the attributes of leadership, command presence and other poignant aspects using military, religious and business sources and models to explore and develop Dominance for the beginner.

 

Master/slave Relationships and People of Color

Before we are Masters or slaves, we are people with our own experiences and beliefs, which may affect how we respond to things, how we view others, and how others view us. American society in particular has issues with race and minority cultures that are often not discussed until there is a major problem. This avoidance can have a polarizing effect, not just in the world at large but within the BDSM and M/s communities as well. How do we deal with social conditioning around race and color? How do we deal with the terms "Master" and "slave" or the concept of consensual "ownership" of a person? Are there different perceptions of M/s in interracial or multicultural households? Sir Guy will lead a discussion of these and related questions.

 

Classes on History

 

BLACK LEATHER: A History of People of Color in Leather and BDSM

 When we hear of the histories of BDSM and Leather, the conversations often go to the early white gay male community or some European houses, but the fact of the matter is, just like American history, People of Color have had a long and storied history in the BDSM and Leather communities, not just as participants but as leaders.  This history is rich and needs to be explored.  Sir Guy will be your tour guide as we take the first steps into exploring various aspects of the histories of People of Color in Leather and BDSM.

 

SWINGING THE BIBLE BELT: Sex and D/s in the Bible

Incest, Genital mutilation, Polygamy, and, that’s just in Genesis! Join Sir Guy as he explores what makes the “Good Book” so “good”. In addition to polygamous relations, with wives and concubines, we’ll explore the erotic poetry of the Song of Solomon, the penalties for early withdrawal and the lasciviousness of some of God’s premier representatives. It is “holy” interesting.

 

Forums, Discussions, or Panel Topics Lead

 

Body Image and BDSM: An Exploration of the Images of BDSM and the reality of BDSM and how these images exert pressure and effect expectations of those who become part of this lifestyle. Discussions include the bias against the fuller figured woman, ageism and sexism.

 

Leather and BDSM: What’s the Difference: An exploration of Leather traditions and if and how they differ with BDSM. Discussions include exclusion versus inclusion, elitism, tradition, history and values, and has the Internet diluted the lifestyle.

 

Unity in the Community: A forum exploring the Diaspora of BDSM groups and organizations, from the non-profit to the commercial, from the long established to the newly formed. The idea is to show how diverse the BDSM/Leather/Fetish community is, as well as to celebrate our commonality.

 

Race, Gender, and BDSM – The Myths and the Reality: The BBC syndrome (not the British Broadcasting Company)… the docile Asian woman… the bossy Black woman… the submissive (or Dominant) white male power broker… the effete Asian male… the transgendered Domme… the hot insatiable Latina… The stereotypes of who participate in BDSM are wide and varied, not just in the minds of those outside of BDSM, but also those who practice it. How do these views of sex, gender and race affect the community at large and the individuals in it? This discussion explores these issues with a diverse panel.

 

Inclusivity: The Keys to Leading Organizations

In a society that has become increasingly polarized there is concerned that some of our organizations are not diverse as they could be. Some feel that their membership does not reflect the wide variety of people in our communities. Others feel disenfranchised. Groups or organizations may see their core demographic seem not to reflect a variety of ages, cultures, races, gender identities, sexual identities or even personal abilities. How do we rectify this without pandering or losing our core membership? Sir Guy begins our discussion on how we can see more inclusive organizations.

 

 

News

Sir Guy will be presenting at Brimstone V, Nov 24-26, 2017. We hope to see you there!

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